I love this quote by Eckhart Tolle, "Set goals, but know that the arriving is not all that important".

We live in a culture that demands goal setting. . . with ourselves, in our families, schools, workplaces- we set goals. We have goals for our weight, for grade point average, for salary expectations, for getting somewhere in a certain amount of time, for completing tasks, for points scored in the big game, or for achieving work performance.

When we speak about emotion, goal setting is a critical driver of whether we experience happiness or anger; joy or fear; love or shame. If we desire a different emotional outcome, we can either switch the goal or hold it more loosely. In the end, perhaps the arrival is not as important as the vision set.